Trying so hard to get pregnant

“My doctor told me to exercise if I want to have a baby, so here I am,” a friend in her early thirties said in a rather dejected way. She and her husband have been married for 5 years and have recently started to see a fertility doctor to try to have a baby. 

“My TCM told me not to drink coconut water if I want to get pregnant,” another friend in a similar situation expressed. 

Sometimes, couples who don’t want to have a baby end up with twins; other times, the couples who try so hard to have a baby don’t end up with one, no matter how hard they try.

I spoke to my ob-gyn, who has been married for 30 years now. Without kids, my husband and I asked him if he and his wife liked kids. “Well, that boat has sailed many years ago now. But tell you what, I wished my wife and I had tried harder when we were younger,” he said pensively. 

Maybe you’re at a stage where you’re scared to have kids; maybe you’re at the stage where you feel ready to have kids but just can’t seem to have one. There are so many thoughts and feelings running through your mind that sometimes you may not even want to think or talk about them. 

Brené Brown,the author of “Atlast of the Heart” (2021), said: “When we are willing to risk venturing into the wilderness, and even becoming our wilderness, we feel the deepest connection to our true self and to what matters the most.” For some of us, our wilderness is figuring out how to have a baby. Oftentimes, it can be filled with discouragements, setbacks, and disappointments. At Elora, we get that pregnancy is not the easiest to talk about. We want to journey with you and share how we can navigate through these rough waters together.